I met my boyfriend when I was 38. It was the middle of the year, it was a freezing cold night and I had just come back from a 8 weeks overseas travel adventure and was not in the mood to go out. My sister wanted me to go to a party with her in the city. I did not want to go and can you believe my Mum – who never ever gets involved with my love life – suggested I should go and join my sister – as you ‘never know, I must just meet someone’. This is so all out of character for my mum to say anything, that I can’t put it down to anything except Mum intuition. At the time I had enough interest (not necessarily in a good way) so I wasn't particulary keen to meet anymore 'nice men' so I went purely as I didnt like the idea of sister traipsing around the city on her own.
Anyway, if only life was as simple as: we meet, we fell in love, we got married and we had a baby.
It didn’t happen that way. I mean I am in my near 40’s about to have a mid life crisis – of course it didn’t happen like that!
We meet, we organised to go out on a date. Yes a date. He text me the next day to arrange and I was impressed that this guy was putting his money where his mouth is.
I then had to cancel date as I got a bad flu.
We made a new date.
He cancelled as he got a flu.
3 weeks later we finally met up and I was less than thrilled, the momentum in my mind had gone before we even met. It was a wet and cold night (dating in winter) and I had one wine too many but I thought he was nice, chatty and good taste in wine). So we met again and it was more of the same. I did not tell him my age!
I think it was 8 weeks into that he finally got me to admit it.
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You'll have bad times - but it'll wake you up to the good stuff you weren't paying attention to - Good Will Hunting